The INFJ is a natural chameleon. They shift and adapt to their surroundings. With Introverted intuition (Ni) otherwise known as subjective intuition, and Extroverted Feeling (Fe), otherwise known as objective ethics, INFJs naturally recognize and absorb other human behaviors and emotions to the point that they become that person. In a matter of seconds of speaking to you, an INFJ will feel your emotions, they will mirror you, they will know what you seek in life, and when speaking to an INFJ, it is almost as if you are speaking to yourself. This behavior is how an INFJ judges other people. Their apparent ability to see the “soul” of the other individual is what keeps them out of trouble. They are the political survivors.
With this intense mind melding capability, its no wonder that INFJs type as everything but themselves. Often considered “the rarest type,” they hide in the disguises of other personality types. They get distracted by the needs of others. They are almost TOO compassionate, to the point that their goals are not attained, because they are too busy sacrificing their time helping others. With a weak Se and Ti, INFJs need to learn to focus on their own needs as individuals, and not the needs of others. Only then, will an INFJ feel fulfilled. It is not unusual to see an INFJ with a group of people that look up to them for emotional support and direction. This will often give them a dominant social position in the eyes of others as an Alpha caretaker. When comparing INFJs side by side with ISFJs, INFJs have a sort of ancient quality about them, where long periods of time are often pondered, both the future, and the past.
INFJs often complain that their lives are slow and stagnant. They can develop depression because their lives go nowhere. Their dreams never come to fruition. All of the exciting possibilities that they like to discuss, never actually get to happen. With an almost infinite supply of empathy, INFJs are distracted from their own needs because they are too busy caring about others, and expecting nothing in return. As such, INFJs need a partner that forces them to redirect their efforts on themself and push them to succeed, someone who expects independence in a partner. Someone who will not allow their partner’s entire life to revolve around their partner.
Like most other introverts, INFJs can succumb to a recursive internal state. This is where the INFJ spends all their time in their imaginations. During this time period they may spend excessive time pondering the meaning of life, religion, or their purpose on earth. Its important for INFJs to use their Fe and connect with others and keep moving, where they develope a network of people who depend on them, and this motivates them to continue moving and break their stagnation.
INFJs have extremely powerful imaginations. Deep down, INFJs can be incredibly angry, or sad. Their vivid imaginations ponder infinite worlds in their minds that they are free to explore whenever they want to. Some INFJs can be incredibly outgoing, going around and meeting a dozen strangers in a day, and then burning out and lapsing into seclusion. Unlike the ENFJ, INFJs are patient with all people, almost to a flaw. Many INFJs will identify with feelings of yearning for someone they can fully apply their love to who is also a strong and independent person. This independent person will help the INFJ to focus on their own feelings as oppposed to others.
As INFJs auxillary function is Extroverted feeling, they have a need for objective ethical data. They require verbal affirmation, and their identity often times requires others tell them who they are and how they fit into the world. Because of their weak Ti, they may actually lose touch with their subjective self as they morph into the shape of others. Their individuality is weak and their social role is strong. INFJs are immediately brought back in touch with who they are, when Ti users ask them questions about themselves. “Who are you? what are your favorite movies? what kind of music do you like?” All of these sorts of questions help INFJs get in touch with their own desires and inspire them to seek out and make their dreams come to fruition (Se). Many INFJs will hide a side of themselves from the public, that will only become apparent to their partners. They can be incredibly mentally intense, even viewed as insane, pushing the boundaries of what others would even attempt to ponder. While pleasant and gentle on the surface, many INFJs hold a much more critical, blunt and aggressive side to them, and can have fierce tempers. When stressed out, their moods can be utterly unpredictable, and their reactions can be completely sporadic. It is important for these more intense INFJs to find a partner who finds amusement in their spontaneous outbursts of cursing, masochism and violence (more commonly found in INFJ 4′s 6′s and 8′s). Their best match is the ESTP.
Common identities: The Chameleon, The Empath, The Soul Reader, The Comic relief, the Good Natured Tag-along, the Lyricist, The Romantic, The Supressed Aggressor, The Impossible Catch, The Healer, The Matriarch/Patriarch, Goodie Two Shoes.
Recommended Careers: Counsellor, Vet, Performer, Writer, Musician, Artist, Nurse, Doctor.
Commonly Mistype as: ENFJ INFP ENFP INTP
Common enneagram typings are: 4, 5, 6, 8
Famous INFJs include: Jenny Agutter, Jennifer Love Hewitt, Alex Borstein, Zoey Saldana, Chloe sevigny, Claire Forlani, Vera Farmiga, Jem (Singer), Edward Norton, Lesley Hornby, Jesus Christ, Tupac Shakur, Aaron Taylor Johnson, DJ Ben Gold, Lena Headey, Michelle Pfieffer, Emilie Autumn.
Fictional INFJs include: Hogarth Hughes (The Iron Giant), John Coffey (The green mile), Ne’Tiri, Obiwan Kenobi, Amelie, Dave Lizewski (Kickass), Cersei Lannister (Game of thrones)